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Ten Ways to Improve Your Relationship in 2007
It’s what we say we want. It’s what we long for before it arrives. We daydream about it, imagine it, visualize it, pray for it and then when it finally comes…we ignore it and give it the least attention. Time to tune up your love life. Here are ten ways to kick up the...
Yakkity Yak
Let’s do lunch. Can’t wait to see you again. You look maavalous! You losing weight? I’ve been meaning to call you. I never got that message. Shall we continue with 900 more ways to blow off real connections and honest communication? It’s all a lot of yakkity yak. Real...
Tell Me the Truth Or Else!
Question: I believe my partner is using and lying about it! She has requested we go to therapy together and I have told her that I think this is her problem. Shouldn't she just go alone? I imagine some people would like to hear me say is that this is all your wife's...
The Power of Your Words
A reader called the other day to say, “ Every time my husband and I go out to meet new people or to attend a family affair, he inevitable brings up every gory detail my past when I was drinking. Something feels really wrong with this, but I don’t know what it is since...
Can You Hear Me Now?
I often imagine the man from the Verizon commercial bursting through my office door wearing a red cape, interrupting some argumentative couple in a heated battle and shouting, “Can you hear me now?” The answer would be, “No.” We don’t hear each other and this is often...
Let’s Go Deeper?
Most of us skate over the top of life. We avoid real issues, detour out of heavy places and live a short distance from our true feelings and spirit. The gold in life is always at the point of connection – to ourselves, to others and to Spirit. We have been taught to...
To Be or Not to Be In a Relationship
Are relationships worth all the trouble? Absolutely! They are the greatest teachers on the planet. Where else can you learn to break open your heart, see what your capacity to love is, test your need for control or sameness and learn cooperative balance? That balance...
Sick of Your Relationship or Yourself?
How do you know if you are sick of your relationship or sick of your self? I hate to break it to you...but it’s all the same thing! Have you ever noticed that when you get up in the morning feeling positive and energetic, your whole day seems to flow into a lighter...
Time to Go?
This is a time of great change. So many people are feeling an under current of restlessness and longing for something more meaningful. Very often, that restlessness manifests in relationships breaking up, job or career changes, selling houses, relocating and other...
One Job To Do
Question: It never occurred to me that getting sober would come with huge fundamental questions about who I am and what are my responsibilities to everyone else! How do I determine what responsibilities are really mine and which are not? Let’s simplify these issues....